A few weeks ago Andy told me, "I know being at home with the kids can be tough, but it's not work. It's not a job. But I know it's hard..." GRRR. I was so annoyed. This is my job. Duh. And it's way harder than a "normal" job.
I don't get any sick days.
I can't leave my office to go home.
I have to wipe asses, deal with tantrums, clean up excessive amounts of spit up... Has Andy ever had to wipe a co-workers ass?
Sometimes I get NO adult interaction. I watch Nick Jr and talk to small children all day. It can be mind numbing.
Not only do I raise the kiddos and clean the house, I also do everything to keep our household functioning. Grocery shopping, buying clothes for the kids, buying birthday gifts, wedding gifts, sending out cards to family, taking pictures of the kids, making their baby books, taking the kids to doctor appointments.... I seriously mean everything. I keep this house running. Andy just doesn't get it.
There are days I would give anything to go to work. But I'm here with the kiddos because I love it. I choose it. And I'm incredibly lucky we are able to make this work. But let me be clear. This is my job. I am raising awesome little people, and it's hard! So that's why my previous post documented my day. Being a SAHM isn't glamorous, but it's rewarding. I just wish I'd get a little more credit sometimes.
7 years ago
3 comments:
Yeah, you have a right to be super annoyed with Andy for saying that. Whether you are a mom that works in or outside of the home, paid or not, you're WORKING. And both are freaking HARD.
Keep on keeping on. It's so hard to put yourself in another person's shoes, and I'm guessing that's the problem here for Andy. I'm sure his job is hard too, in a very different way, and then he comes home and still has to be a dad as well, but that doesn't mean he should minimize what you're doing.
Appreciate each other. I have been trying SO HARD to be better about that with Dan, because I get so focused on how difficult things are FOR ME sometimes.
Well plus, you work and wipe and work some more and it is very, very tedious and...
you are never paid.
It's all a contribution for the good of the family and also mankind.
Men think if they do the least little thing they should be paid.
But us? What?
So how about a little respect at least?
A little appreciation?
Don't shovel bullshit at you besides.
I got your back here. love, Val
Oh Bets, I read your day in the life post and was exhausted just reading that. You get tons of credit from me!
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